A Daughter’s Letter to Her Father

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A Daughter’s Letter to Her Father looks back at a daughter’s memories of her father and how he continues to be remembered with respect and fondness.


March 1, 2013


I was going about my usual day today then I remembered you for no specific reason.  That often happens you know.  I remember you when I’m happy, I remember you when I’m sad.

I used to be so scared of you when I was young.   That was even when people said I was your favorite because I was your only daughter at that time among your four children, as my youngest sister would still come many, many years after.  I did not feel such favoritism though as everything you gave to us were always divided equally.

You looked so strict and imposing.   You were the picture of toughness at work and the disciplinarian at home. I would often tremble when I had to ask permission from you to join an outing or attend a party.  Most of the time I’d expect a no and would be surprised when you’d say yes.  Even if you did it unsmilingly and I guess , grudgingly, you brought and fetched me every time without fail.

You were always the first parent to come to school when classes were cancelled due to bad weather. You had absolutely no qualms about knocking at my classroom door and seeking the teacher’s permission to bring me home. Sometimes, I would feel secretly embarrassed when you’d come as if straight from the wet market until my two very well-off classmates told me they wish their fathers would be more like you.

I broke your heart when I got married very young.  I never saw you cry before but when I told you I had to leave, you wept.  You wept so hard, it broke my heart as well. I have never completely forgiven myself for doing that to you.

Even then, you never gave up on me.  You found a way for me to finish my education.  You rallied our family behind me when my marriage failed.  Looking back, I realized that you never failed me.

I would like to think that I have redeemed myself in your eyes before you left us.  You have to forgive me sometimes when I call on you in times of deep trouble when I should be letting you enjoy your peace.  I’m still your daughter needing your assistance from time to time.

Thinking of you everyday…

Your daughter,

Letter Writer



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42 Responses to “A Daughter’s Letter to Her Father”

  1. Algene says:

    This is another great letter from a sweet daughter! It reminds me of my beloved dad 🙂

    • Teresa Martinez says:

      I will always remember my own father and how he has provided for us, defended us, and loved us in his own way.

  2. kulasa says:

    gosh this made me miss my father so much! the only time I saw him cry too was when I met my husband to be and told him I was pregnant..I broke his heart….yet thankfully just as any loving father would he forgave me…now that he is gone for good, oftentimes I talk to him and look up the sky wishing he could hear me each time I say “I love you dad,”…wiping the tears away…this is beautifully written 🙂

  3. jenn says:

    very heartwarming letter. by the way, the picture above looks sweet and endearing.

  4. I can relate to this one. As if my own daughter had penned it.

  5. rona says:

    this letter made me teary-eyed. such a beautiful letter. it made me missed my father suddenly. I’m just so blessed that mine is still alive.

  6. This made me cry, reminds me of my father!

    • Teresa Martinez says:

      Even when we cry when we are reminded of our own fathers, it is not necessarily with sadness but also of joy in having known such a beautiful human being.

  7. Shengkay says:

    hindi ako maka-relate coz im havent seen my real father. but im not bitter 🙂 do i wish to see him? no. but if someday will see each other hindi ko alam ang magiging reaction ko. but for sure im not bitter and galit.

    • Teresa Martinez says:

      You are a complete person whether you see your father or not and it is a tribute to your good side for not resorting to bitterness for things you didn’t have any control over. Stay happy.

  8. Dhemz says:

    such a heart-warming letter…very sentimental!

  9. Lainybelle says:

    I had to control the tears that’s welling up my eyes while I was going through the letter. I can feel the daughter’s love for her Dad. The Dad must be so proud of his daughter wherever he is now. You made me miss my own Dad 🙁

    • Teresa Martinez says:

      I miss my father so much. When he was with us, I’d always thought nothing and no one can harm me. I will always be thankful for the chance he gave me to take care of him during his dying days. He must have known I needed that.

      • Lainybelle says:

        You’re lucky po you were able to return all the love while he was still alive. I wish I had the chance to look after my Dad too but his demise was very sudden. It was heartbreaking to see him dead while I was confined at the hospital myself. I had to be discharged right away for me to get to him at the morgue. The memories of my Dad will forever live on. Had he been alive today, I know he would be very proud of me like most Dads are.

        I am in tears again while recalling about my Dad’s memories. You have a way of getting through the core of my heart and my entire being through your blogs. There’s just so much heart in every words. Keep it up po!

        • Teresa Martinez says:

          I’m sorry that you lost your father in such circumstances but be happy in the thought that he is proud of you. You know how fathers are proud of their daughters and vice versa even in the absence of perfection. We do not question that because that is simply how parents and children are with each other.

          Thank you for appreciating my blogs as they are all really extensions of myself. I am at my happiest state being with my family and writing to my heart’s content.

  10. Rovie says:

    This letter makes me cry as if I am writing this myself for my own father.

    We may never understand their reasons a lot of times but there was no doubt that indeed our fathers never failed us.

    Thank you so much for sharing this very touching letter sis.

  11. MC says:

    This is so sweet! I can totally relate to her!

  12. This letter reminded me how hard-headed I have been, without realizing all that he have done was for me. I never realized that every tough challenges he gave me, was to prepare me for the worse…or even worst part of my life. I have hated him long enough, that I thought I can never be peace with him. Although, he had let me graduate before he passed away, he never really gave me a chance to atone for all my deficits and thank him from the bottom of my heart. Right now, a year had past, I can’t still forgive myself for the fact I have let my anger take over, had I not let it drive me, I would have beautiful memories to remember. I am still hurting to the fact that it was so sudden that I didn’t even remember how I survived through that ordeal, or did I even blocked the truth? I still and will wept. I haven’t found peace not until he’ll forgive me. My only regret is I wasn’t able to tell him, how much i love him, and how lucky I am that I was born to be his daughter. He may not be a perfect father, but he is my father and no one can replace that fact.

    I wish, my only wish. To see him, to talk to him for the very last time. To tell him, he had made me the strong person that everyone had accepted.

    • Teresa Martinez says:

      I believe in my heart that your father knows what is in your heart now but sometimes we need to do something to get over the guilt and the hurt. My way is to ask forgiveness whenever I visit my own father in the cemetery and to whisper that I have forgiven him too. I felt comfort in that, maybe you will too. Pray constantly for guidance.

  13. Very special letter. My dad passed away when I was 26 yrs old. I miss him every single day of my life, and I hope he’s proud of me. Thank you for sharing.

  14. What a great letter. It is nice that your father never failed you. It is really touching that you realize everything he did for you. Most children don’t realize that until it is too late.

  15. Liisi Carr says:

    sniff sniff, I need a tissue. What a beautiful letter, and written in the perfect month too. Thanks for sharing.

  16. Makes me think I need to write a letter to my dad. Your letter is beautiful.

  17. malia says:

    such a great letter, makes me think of my dad who passed away earlier this year.

  18. Thank you for sharing that. I’m sure it was tough. It was very beautiful!

  19. Sarah says:

    What a touching letter, I remember as a teen clashing like crazy with my father, hating him for being so well what I thought was hard on me – looking back now I realise it’s because he loved me and wanted the best and he just had no idea how to help me as I fought the illness throughout my teens. I remember him and me sitting in the car singing bridge over troubled water together as he drove me back to hospital. That moment means so much. x

  20. Maria says:

    What a fantastic tribute and meaningful letter!

  21. What a beautiful letter. I have been missing my dad, it is so hard having been daddy’s girl. I am sure your dad is proud of you and all you have become.

  22. I love the letters on this site. It is so important to tell those around us how we feel, while we still can.

  23. What a wonderful letter, makes me nostalgic as I really miss having my Dad around. I haven’t seen him in two years since we live so far away. Love the beautiful and sweet picture.

  24. corinne1989 says:

    The last lines are so sweet and touching. I’m sure no parent will ever mind being called upon for strength and comfort (even when they’re gone).

  25. Sheila says:

    What a very touching letter. It shows how a father love his daughter that even if she disappoint him many times a father still stick to his obligation to let the daughter finished her education.

  26. Loreina says:

    What a beautiful letter!! I still have my Dad, and I see him often. I am grateful as I didn’t always treat him the best when I was a teenager.

  27. Tory Blum says:

    This is really touching and the photo is super sweet 🙂 She’s a smart little girl!

  28. Lexie Lane says:

    This is the sweetest thing ever. As kids we never understand what our parents do but when we mature enough to understand we then realize it’s for our own good. As a parent, I would love to raise a child like this. Someone kind and loving. It’s so rewarding and really makes you feel good about all that you go through as a parent. This is sooo lovely.

  29. JENN says:

    Beautifully written! A letter every dad should receive! I’m very close to my father and cherish every day that I have with him!

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